Held Hostage, Part III of III: Taking Action

Welcome to our third and final part of this Held Hostage miniseries on the effect of violence in video games on gamers/children. For part one (an introduction to the topic), click here, and for part two (delving into the research pertaining to children), click here.


Over the past few weeks, we’ve discussed the differences between violence and aggression, posed ideas about desensitization and observational learning, and jumped into research pertaining to whether or not video games make adults and children more aggressive or more violent. Long story short, the answer is that video games do cause increased aggression in children and adults, which can lead to violence, but video games, by themselves, have not been shown to cause an otherwise non-violent human being to become violent.

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Remember, instances of drowning doesn’t increase ice cream consumption.

But there’s so much more to the story than what this research has taken into account.

Someone I know very well told me a story, and I’ve put here with permission:

[It’s hard to believe now, but I was the kid everyone picked on in school.] I didn’t have friends growing up. […]It’s a long, complicated, and probably boring story, but the main point is that there was one girl who hated me and she had minions, and I had the final school-bell that meant I could go home and get away from her.

By that time [Athena’s note: 6th-8th grade], I was starting to play more violent video games, like Grand Theft Auto. I remember putting GTAIII, then Vice City, into the Playstation, finding a nice perch, and sniping random people in the game. Sometimes if it was a really bad day I’d name them after the girls at school, right before I blew their heads off. I’d beat pedestrians to a pulp with baseball bats, ditto with the names. I’d feel nauseous and relieved, disgusted and powerful. Of course I didn’t do that when my parents were in the room, but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know the kind of game GTA is even without the mass murder.

They’d comment about the missions, on how not nice some action or another was, or couldn’t I think of another way to finish the mission without killing people, or how awful it was that the character would just hurt people without a thought. Didn’t those other people matter at all? Why are you killing that shopkeeper? He’s probably trying to support his family.

One day, during gym class, we played softball. The bell rang, and I stayed back to help clean up. Hopefully the locker room would be mostly empty by the time I got there. I was carrying a wayward bat, and [The Bully] came up behind me and tried to rip it out of my hands. One of the teacher’s aids saw her and commented that she shouldn’t bother me right now. “I wouldn’t do that, [insert name of bully]. She has a bat.”

Then a horrible thing happened. I thought about how good it would feel to really smash her head in with the bat, like all those times I’d beaten someone to a pulp in a game to make myself feel better. And this time, it would be the last time I’d have to do it. I’d finally be free of her. And it would feel so good, and I’d feel as powerful as I did in the game. And maybe as nauseous.

How awful that someone would just hurt people without a thought. Didn’t those other people matter at all? 

I thought about what hitting her would mean. Like, really mean. Her head thumping like a melon, blood everywhere. Her lying crumpled on the ground, never moving again. In real life. Because of me.

She let go of the bat, blew a mocking kiss at me, and then I watched her walk away.

Outstanding Factors

The reason I put this story here is because there are so many undercurrents happening, and many of you commented on them last time. This story so accurately illustrated the complex relationship between video games, aggression, violence, personality, and environmental factors. Many of you commented on other issues that the research tends not to address, and the non-gaming community seems to ignore. I thought it would be a nice example to reference as we continue trying to unravel this issue and decide where to go from here to remedy some of the very real issues surrounding this topic.

Parental Involvement

As many of you commenting, parental involvement is an incredibly important aspect of this issue. Knowing is quite seriously half the battle, and knowing the maturity level of your child and what type of media you think they would be able to handle is the first step. From there, depending on the subject matter, parents can provide insight and “reality check” of sorts, like my friend’s parents did when providing a different context to the violence in the Grand Theft Auto games.

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As we talked about in part two, observational learning is incredibly important and studies have shown that children and teenagers will still defer final judgments of information – from gender roles to other behavioral learning – to what their parents show them and tell them.

Many of you commenting on the difficulty of being a parent, and you’re right. Parents bear a great deal of responsibility when raising children, and there is a difference between being a good parent and being a “nice” parent. Sometimes they overlap, but sometimes, to quote Sondheim, “nice is different than good.”

Video Games vs. Backyard Games

Some of you mentioned the difference between video games and the backyard games that permeated our childhoods. I, for one, remember playing “Ninja Turtles” in my friend’s backyard, and the two of us would swing sticks at each other as we alternated between being one of the Turtles and being whatever villain we had cooked up.

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I would imagine that physically trying to hit someone with a stick should be higher up on the “dangerous” list in regards to risk factors, yet none of our parents minded, other than to tell us to not actually hit each other, for somewhat obvious reasons.

I thought about this for a good long while, since I couldn’t find any existing literature comparing backyard games to video games, and it struck me that the point I made above was acted out in these games: we were mature enough to know the danger of actually hitting each other, and our parents reminded us that we were supposed to be having fun, not hurting people.

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Everything about our real-life game was concrete insofar as the implications of violence. We didn’t actually hit each other, and accidental whacks were met with negative social responses from both our peer and our parents – i.e., negative extrinsic responses.

Meanwhile, in the Grand Theft Auto example above, beating someone to a bloody pulp was met with a feeling of stress relief, as well as the monies, weapons, etc., that came along with killing a character – i.e., a much more positive extrinsic reward. And without some sort of counterbalancing social input, perhaps from a parent, to provide context or an alternate explanation, acts of violence are both intrinsically and extrinsically rewarding. And since our brains don’t distinguish between real and virtual experiences, these supervision-free violent games could, in theory, be a little more dangerous than the supervised violent games of our backyard.

Nature vs. Nurture

I could talk about observational learning all day, and that would fall into the “nuture” category. For those of you who may not know, “nature versus nurture” is an age-old debate about whether human behaviors are defined by “nature” (that is, driven by a person’s genes) or by “nurture” (that is, their environment and experiences).

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This is a debate that could go on for many a page, but my two cents on the subject is that we are made of a little bit of both. After all, if you have a piece of granite (nature) and you polish it as much as you can (nurture), you will never produce a diamond. You may wind up with a very nice piece of granite, but it will be granite nonetheless.

So what does this mean for violence and video games? Well, like the story above, a person’s nature and a person’s environment will affect them. My friend may have been a little more aggressive to begin with, or maybe even had some “violent tendencies,” since she took such enjoyment in killing her game characters, but perhaps her empathy (i.e., her disgust during the game) was nurtured by her parent’s vocal disapproval of the violent actions in-game. Thus, when the opportunity arose, she didn’t act on her violent tendencies. But that doesn’t mean she didn’t have them.

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But, one thing to keep in mind is that games do allow you to practice actions – shooting, fighting, etc. – and so, perhaps, for those who would act on those tendencies (nature), video games have just made them more efficient at it (nurture).

One very important point to note is that there is no evidence that supports that mental health disorders such as schizophrenia, depression, bipolar, or others, put people at a greater risk of violent behavior. While some believe that depression can be caused by repressed rage, and rage can certainly cause violent behavior, it is overly simplified and incorrect to state that, for instance, people with depression are more likely to be violent than their non-depressed peers.

Where to Go Next

It seems like there is still a lot left to interpretation, and so many factors to consider, so what can we do? While I have a few ideas, this is another opportunity for us to discuss as a community where to go from here. Consider the following:

Starting at Home

Like anything that deal with child development or the development of behavior patterns, the journey begins at home. While this blog has an audience of readers who obviously play, enjoy, and are educated about video games, non-gaming parents/relatives may not realize that video games must be monitored for content just as much as books, movies, music, and television shows. The Game of Thrones series is a fantastic series, but I would not let my 7-year-old read it. Heck, I wouldn’t let my 7-year-old read a Harry Potter book past the first or second one.

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Quick Fix 1: Know the rating system – Become educated on the video game rating system; it’s in place for the same reasons the movie rating system exists. “R” rated movies are not for children, and neither are “M” rated games. “PG-13” movies require parental discretion, and so do “T” rated games.

Quick Fix 2: Have a screen time/violence budget – This might be controversial, but be aware of how much violence children are seeing in the media. Children’s cartoon, movies, and video games all have violent elements to them. It’s good practice to have children turn off the screens and play something else, and there are resources available online that explain how to balance media and other activities, as well as provide guides as to how much “screen time” is developmentally appropriate for the development of little eyes and little brains.

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Quick Fix 3: Be aware – Know what games your child is playing, and keep televisions/video games/computers in common areas. This helps with Quick Fix 2 and also…

Quick Fix 4: Be involved in your child’s media habits – Know what you child can handle, because every child is different. But remember that they are still children and still learning. You, as a parent, are their safety net, you are the one providing structure to their lives, and you are latticework that they will grow up around, trusting you to guide them true. Talk about what’s happening on the screen, and give perspective that children don’t innately have, and perspective that they might not receive or understand via the game/media.

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Education at the Community Level

All of this responsibility doesn’t fall squarely on the parents alone, though. Having a strong community and resources available at that level are also of paramount importance. After all, movies and books have rigorous review processes, and they have been established long enough that the general population is aware of and understands how to appropriately shop for child-appropriate media. Unfortunately, change at this level is harder, but there are a few goals we as a community could reach for.

Community Goal 1: Campaign to make video game rating systems more universally known and easy to understand. Having clear guidelines that are clearly labeled on games are of paramount importance. We do this already, via the ESRB, but the education of what those little stamps mean is also important.

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Giving our ratings system what is called internal and external validity is incredibly important. This means that the system will always (or almost always) rate the games appropriately, and that consumers can trust, for instance, an “E” rating to be the same across platforms, and have clear, communicable expectations so the public can understand the ratings.

Community Goal 2: So is knowing that the ratings are important. The Motion Picture Association of America had a great PR department, and their rating system is, for the most part, understood and followed. We should keep promoting game ratings as valid and necessary to follow, just like movies. As we continue to promote games as more than just a child’s plaything, I think people will start to better realize the importance of following ratings.

Community Goal 3: Advocate to be a part of changes happening within the community, and don’t let government interference happen because “Big Brother knows better.” The guys in Congress don’t always know best, so work with organizations that advocate for games and realistically represent the needs of the community to keep video games from being mislabeled and dismissed further.

Don’t Fear the Critique

I work in a small field that is often misrepresented. We have, as a whole, become very defensive when people make reasonable critiques of the profession, because we have been so primed to be alert for any attack. And so it is with the gaming community. The only way for any medium to continue to develop is through analysis and honest critique.

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Of course we must defend ourselves against outlandish claims, but discussing the parts of our community, our culture, or our industry – even to point out its flaws – is the only way to bring about change, so long as the discussion stays objective and fair.

Final Thoughts

As the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child. So much responsibility falls on the parents – and, I suppose, rightfully so – but without the proper community supports, this already-demanding job becomes much more difficult.

As a community, we still have a lot of growing to do, especially to educate those who do not play video games about the realities of our medium. Games can have a profound effect on our lives, and on children’s development, and so to do nothing is to be complacent in the mishandling of a powerful tool that can shape the very development of our children.

What do you think? Have I asked too much of parents? Of our community? How do you think we should handle the issue of violent video games causing increased aggression – which could lead to violence – in children? Let me know in the comments!

Thanks for stopping by, and I’ll see you soon!
~ Athena

For more on socialization and parents as behavioral role models: http://gozips.uakron.edu/~susan8/parinf.htm

For a fast, easy-to-understand summary of nature vs. nurture: https://www.simplypsychology.org/naturevsnurture.html

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  1. Excellent wrap-up!

    I couldn’t possibly answer the question about asking too much of parents, seeing as I am not one. That said, I do think you provided a lot of tools to start with, and I will be passing along said tools to friends and family. As far as the question about the gaming community, I think that focusing on ratings is a sound strategy for the community, but there is one obstacle about ratings that movies (at theatres) don’t have: nobody is enforcing the ratings. As long as kids/teens have a steam or [insert console] gift card, or access to a debit/credit card, there is nothing on the community’s end to stop them from buying and playing games that might not be appropriate.

    That doesn’t mean that it was any better when people used to buy physical copies of games. From personal experience both in Latin America and Europe, many store clerks tended to look the other way when young people bought an age-inappropriate game. I know anecdotal evidence is just that, but a cousin of mine managed to buy Dead Space (PEGI 18/ESRB M) at age 12. I am curious about how the ratings are enforced nowadays, but I haven’t entered a game store in about 10 years.

    Gaming magazines and publications should help as well. I am not sure how, seeing as part of their goal is to get more people to buy games and consoles, so limiting the market by issuing parental guides/trigger warnings or anything of the sort would be counterproductive. And if I may go on a slight tangent, sexual violence/violence with sexual undertones in games is a bit of an elephant in the room, especially in big publications. It has always been, even if things have gotten better in the last 20 years or so.

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    1. Thanks! I’m glad these articles have given you some information you think might be useful to our non-gaming peers 🙂 As far as enforcing ratings, I think if you get a game at a shop, the shopkeeper will comment on the rating – I know up until a few years ago, I was asked to present my license when buying “M” rated games (brushes shoulder nonchalantly), but that doesn’t stop parents from buying a game even if the shopkeeper says it’s not appropriate, and – like anything else – doesn’t stop the internet.

      I don’t think that having enough respect for your medium to make sure it’s not hurting anyone is counterproductive. It will almost make sure that people will buy another game, because they weren’t startled by the content. I’d also say that non-gaming productions should maybe write an objective article or two about it, to reach beyond the niche market. And yes, I’d agree that sexual violence/undertones is still present in games, and that should be a consideration, too.


      1. It could very well be a cultural difference. There are countries where there is this idea that it is better to be seen as cool than to do your job the proper way. Sadly a lot of places I’ve been to/lived in were like that. And yes, there is also the issue of parents not knowing whether a game is or isn’t appropriate. Which brings us back to the issue of educating ourselves about ratings.

        Hah, lucky you, I’ve been called ma’am since I turned 23/24. *grumbles*

        I think I didn’t express myself correctly, what I meant to say is that for some industries it might seem counterproductive to have an informed consumer. My personal opinion couldn’t be further from it. I agree with you that people would still buy games. If anything, I think a more discerning public would mean a more diverse output of games.

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  2. I really have nothing intelligent to say other than you did an amazing job writing this series! It’s so easy to blame an innocent medium for society’s ills (i.e. video games) and forget about trying to find the root cause of problems (i.e. poor parenting). I also like your points about the community advocating for change is a respectful manner. Whenever a politician or other group says something ignorant about video games causing violence, enraged gamers usually start spouting death threats and whatnot via social media. Yeah, that’s really gonna help change people’s minds… 🙄

    I will also say your friend’s story really struck a chord with me… and uh, now I need some non-floating, real ice cream. I refuse to be just another drowned ice cream lover statistic, dammit!

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    1. Thank you kindly! You’re right that the insane backlash of gamers helps exactly no one, and harms “the cause,” as it were, and simple solutions definitely sell more easily than complex ones. Sigh. We’ll just have to keep educating the public!

      I wouldn’t wish that situation on anyone, so I’m sorry to hear you related to it. Don’t drown your ice cream, though 😉

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    2. “I also like your points about the community advocating for change is a respectful manner.”

      This, so much. Video game fans cannot expect respect without giving it to people outside the community (and to their fellow fans as well).

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  3. I think that being open to critique is a big and important factor. If our view on violence in video games is sound, is has to stand up to being challenged. Circling the wagons, picking and choosing science, or picking our positions out of emotion is only going to undermine our side of the debate.

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  4. great conclusion to the series. That story was a great way to make the point of how when confronted with such a situation, how such thoughts can enter ones mind due to constant exposure to things like bullying. And it’s good to know that those things that parents say aren’t always discarded, and they are buried deep in there somewhere.

    I don’t think it’s asking parents too much to do all these things. I think this is just one small part of what it means to be a parent, and it shouldn’t be taken lightly given the story you present.

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    1. Thanks! Yeah, it’s a very touching story, and I do believe that it’s because her parents were so involved (coupled with a bit of her nature) that kept her from whacking the bully (even if it wasn’t that particular day).

      That’s true; parenting shouldn’t be taken lightly, and (healthy) parental involvement is one of the most important parts of a child’s upbringing!

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  5. I think this is an excellent conclusion that uses empirical evidence, but also extrapolates reasonable conclusions based on observation. I find myself wondering where nature ends and nurture begins and vice versa e.g. is empathy teachable? Is it inherent? Could it be both especially if taught at a young age? Was your friends nausea inherent to her nature? Or was it nurtured and/or shaped by some event? I wish I had answers to these questions.

    I know I’ve always been empathetic, much more so then anyone else in my family so you could say it’s natural for me and has just increased exponentially as I’ve learned more and gotten older. I’ve always been hypersensitive, too, but again I don’t know if these traits came about due to bullying, emotional abuse, etc. Becayse I was mocked, I might have not wanted to treat others the same way, but someone else might have done the complete opposite: become abusive and/or a bully (this could also be an introvert/extrovert thing as in how one discharges energy, but I know bullied extroverts who are empathetic, so it’s not a perfect point).

    Anyway…enough if my rambling, I really enjoyed this series. I’m going to spread it across the realm 😊

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    1. Thanks! And thanks for sharing your story. I do think it’s a combination, at the end of the day, as you alluded to with your own experiences. Not to start analyzing my friend when she’s not here to defend herself (haha), but she’s always been a pretty sensitive and empathetic person, but nurture can still effect that and cause a person to not act on those innate traits, even if they’re still there somewhere. I sometimes think that acting empathetic is teachable, and acting in that way might change behavior, but “empathy” itself I personally think is an inherent characteristic that some folks just have more of than others. But that’s an opinion based on little to no empirical evidence, to take it with a grain of salt!

      Anyway, I appreciate rambling comments and they are always welcome 🙂 And I also always appreciate you spreading the word!

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      1. I agree with you about empathy. I think it is teachable to some degree. Is it going to take in every single person? Probably not, but (and I have no empirical evidence either so this is pure hypothesis), the amount of empathy in a population will more than likely increase if it’s taught. There are always going to be outliers (which is a point I was trying to make today on Facebook, which is NOT a great place for rational debate oy…), but overall, the underlying goal of empathy is to have people see that the feelings of others matter. Even if you can’t teach how to “feel” others emotions, you can at least emphasize that what they feel is important and how to behave accordingly.

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        1. I’d agree with that. Teaching people to empathize and at least attempt to understand where another person is coming from can only help the society function, and definitely if people haven’t been challenged to act in an empathetic way, some might not think to act that way.

          And I hear you about Facebook debates. Yikes.

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